Womp Womp
When I was in Las Vegas a few weeks ago I saw a psychic for the first time ever. I was nervous and excited. Torn between believing what she said and thinking it was all coincidence and I was giving off some kind of read-me-like-a-book vibe.
I have an upbeat personality. The money situation is improving. There’s a positive male influence in my life. Big things are about to happen with my career. My husband and I are both totally over this marriage thing. I have a strong network of family and friends to support me.
Yup. That’s about right.
After almost eight years, we are done. There’s been no yelling or sobbing. (Okay, fine. I sniffled a few times.) Nothing thrown or slammed. (Although, I did dump all his folded laundry in the middle of the kitchen floor a few weeks ago.) Just a general feeling of not wanting to be married anymore and I’ve finally piped up and said that this needs to end. This lack of enthusiasm and living like roommates. Neither one of us is going to change what we want out of life, and neither one of us wants to be responsible for forcing change on the other and then being resented for it or being even more miserable when things don’t end up like imagined.
Although, I guess I am forcing this change. Because honestly, things haven’t been good for a long time. They haven’t been bad, either. They’ve just been. And I’m no longer content with that. I’d venture to say he isn’t, either.
So, the decision has been made. The paperwork has been filled out. Am I angry and upset? Of course. Am I hopeful and ready to move on? More than anything. Am I going to say mean and nasty things about how he’d rather buy a motorcycle than save for a house? Nope, but I’ll think it.
Plus, he doesn’t like Nutella. Where do you go with a relationship after your significant other drops that bomb?
Kathryn
Big ol’ hug coming your way, lady. I couldn’t be with anyone who doesn’t like nutella, either.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Kathryn. Nutella IS love.
Just Heather
Twitter: JustHeather
Oh, wow. I had no idea. I’m so sorry. Or, happy for you…?
Either way, here for chat, if you need it. And, drinks as soon as possible!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Heather. Drinks in San Diego!
Natalie
Not a Nutella lover? wtf.
Love to you from across the office
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
wtf is right. Office love.
Megan
Aw, that sucks, even if you both know it’s necessary. Hugs.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Megan.
Cathy
You KNOW I feel your pain right now. That being said I would like to do my part and have margaritas with you as often as humanly possible. Onward and upward my love!!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Solidarity! Margaritas after the holiday weekend, for sure.
Jessica
I am so so sorry to hear that…But with your positive outlook you are going to be just fine. And extremely happy I’m sure. Good luck to you!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Jessica. I get to keep the wiener dog – that’s all I care about.
Leigh Ann
Twitter: Torres
Hugs to you Corrin. Even when it’s for the best I’m sure it’s difficult.
I just had my 1st Nutella. I’m in love. Wanna be my sister wife?
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Sister wife bloggers! Has that been done yet? We’re totally on our way to a reality show.
Loretta
Twitter: retta719
It sounds like you’re at a level of peace with this decision, which is good. No one wants a big ugly drawn out break up thing and a messy angry divorce. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing for both of you, even though it’s hard. And that is to be commended I think.
For the record, everyone in my house loves Nutella so feel free to visit any time!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Loretta. There was a sense of peace after the decision was made – the worst part was/is telling people. It’s embarrassing, you know? But it’s better with a jar of Nutella in hand.
Mrs. Cline
Twitter: www.onceuponacline.com
A big ‘ole hug comin’ your way.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Did you hear? I’m a hugger now!
Trying to come up with a way for everyone to get together this weekend. Will keep you posted.
sophia
Twitter: Joydvicious
*hugs* It’s going to be hard, but you’ll get through it. You’re a strong woman. Too many people deal with “it” because it’s alright. But you deserve better than just alright.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Sophia! I’m beginning to believe that, too.
kristen
Twitter: amelias_mommy10
big hugs! i’m so sorry.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Kristen. I appreciate the support.
DrHedrick
Sending love your way. I think that actually more marriages should end this way. I think the problems are that people keep staying together for some reason (kids, money, religion) when they have already reached the I just don’t want to be married point. Then after that comes bitterness, resentment, open hostility, and eventually hatred.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Oh, Dr. Dave. We’re so civilized, aren’t we? But I agree. Why be angry when it’s for the best? xo
Jessica
Twitter: gishers
I am sorry to hear about your separation, but it sounds as if it is for the best. It is definitely hard, but you will get through it.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Jessica.
Jenine
Twitter: _Jenine
Should I say, “I’m sorry”? “Congratulations”? Regardless, I wish you well and wish you many happy days in the future. I’m sure you will be moving toward happiness when all of the marriage/divorce chaos is over.
By the way, we make Nutella sandwiches in our house just about every day. Who in the world doesn’t like Nutella? That’s just so wrong.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Congratulations! I’m always down for a reason to celebrate.
Meagan
Twitter: SarafinaKitchen
Call me. We need to get together. SOON.
Love you, Smeglet
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Megs. I’m going to home to Chicago this weekend, but I’m free the other weekends in July.
Meagan
Twitter: SarafinaKitchen
Pencil me in for the 16th, then.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
You got it!
Toni
Twitter: ItsToni
I always hate to hear that anyone’s marriage is ending….but I hate even more that people choose to live unhappy. You know I love ya…:)
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Gawd – who wants to be that unhappy for the rest of their lives when there’s margaritas to drink and Tijuana to visit? xo
crazyassmomma
Twitter: crazyassmomma
the “end” is always hard. IDC who you are or what it is. you’re a fantastic person and life will only get better from here!
that being said, here’s a hug. and also — next time you venture to NWI, margaritas on me!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Danel! I’m actually going to be in NWI this weekend. I don’t know exactly what the family plans are yet, but if I have some free time, I’ll give you a shout. xo
PS
What the hell do I do about our taxes? HA.
crazyassmomma
Twitter: crazyassmomma
I HATE that i couldnt make it work for me sunday. i really wouldve liked to see yo face.
and
PS — you file single
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Did I tell you that I ran into Jackie at the restaurant? She was just sitting down for dinner as I was stumbling out.
crazyassmomma
Twitter: crazyassmomma
LOL!!! thats awesome!
Jess (The Cozy Reader)
Twitter: thecozyreader
I’m happy that you’re so positive and that it ended amicably. Nothing worse then broken hearts or nasty attitudes.
Good luck to you and your ex. May you both find happiness, again.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thank you, Jess! I’m very grateful it’s civil.
Dr. Leah at Singlemommyhood
BIG Hug!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Leah. See you soon!
Cindy Schultz
Twitter: MomMaven
Hey babe, I miss you and while I hate to see marriages end, it seems you are being healthy about it. Let me know when you make it to Florida so we can go out for cupcakes
Also, I have an event at SeaWorld tomorrow so I will be riding Manta-hopefully more than once, in your honor. {{hugs}}
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Cindy! My cousins mentioned Disney in October and I kind of invited myself – I’ll let you know if it pans out!
And good luck on Manta! It still scares me.
Meagan
Good for you. Divorce is hard but can be very good. I just wrote about mine yesterday, I didn’t even realize how much I was still punishing myself for it going south, but that stops now. Carry on!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Meagan! I’m a firm believer that divorce can be good – it’s all about perspective. Good for you, too!
Tracy
Twitter: nystoopmama
Kudos for being strong and making the choice to be happy. (like freely eating Nutella without judgment). Too many people stay for the wrong reasons.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Tracy. I totally agree – and I’m too young and cute to be miserable.
Erin
Twitter: ecsuperhero
I think it takes a lot of strength and courage to end a marriage this way, instead of the nasty, screaming bitter way. While I’m sorry that this is happening to you, I hope your next journey brings you happiness…and a lot of Nutella.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thank you, Erin. If you know anybody tall and handsome that wants to get married, have babies, and eat Nutella with every meal, you know where to send them.
Jen
Twitter: momto3blessings
I remember when you started dating. Bingo, waterpark, dinner, hotel
. You would both laugh and you were just always happy. I miss that Corrin. Too much pressure on you! Welcome back old Corrin 
If you need me I am merely a plane ride away and I will bring S! XOXO
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Bingo, waterpark, dinner, hotel….how easily I am woo’d.
Celeste Gustufson
Well…I know a good plan “B”…shall we try that? Come visit sometime! You’re up here more than I’m down there
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Plan B has been activated. I’m keeping an eye on airfare to visit Indy for a weekend! Maybe September?
Shelley
I’m so sorry, Corrin. Sounds like you’re handling the situation as best as you can. I’ll keep you in my thoughts.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thank you, Shelley. We have got to meet for drinks sometime soon – two minutes at TechMunch was not enough time to activate the snark.
Julie
Twitter: jvdesigns
High five for doing hard things to make both your lives better. This can’t be easy and I have so much respect for you in making this decision. I also volunteer myself as a cocktail buddy in case cocktails are a necessary part of this process. HUGS. A lot of them!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Julie – Cocktails ARE the process. I’ll let you know the next time I’m in town – I’m going to require pizza VERY soon.
Lori
Sorry to hear about the pending “D” … but glad to hear you are at peace with the decision. Be sure to check in next time your in Indy … I’ll buy you a drink (or 2).
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Lori. Next time, no Vegas.
Emily Wood
Is it too soon to ask you out?
Wish I could have some margaritas with you dear.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Squeeeee….I was hoping you’d ask!
xoxo
Karen
Hugs for you. Change is hard but for the best. Good things are ahead for you!
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thank you, Karen! Hope you’re doing well!
Ken
Twitter: flushy78
This form says “Submit Witty Comment”… Fact is, even when you both realize you want out, there’s never room to be truly witty. It still ends up hurting in a way, even when it’s the right decision for you.
You know all too well I went through what you’re dealing with now, and I have never forgot and have always been appreciative of the fact you were there (in an online sense) as a friend to hear me vent out. The favor’s always open to be returned, but in the meantime (and this is where the northern Brit slang comes out), “keep yer chin up sunshine, yer a tough gal and you’ll see it through OK”. Drinks in NYC when you visit!
Keep on smiling
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thank you, Ken. You’re right – it’s not all pleasant but the good outweighs the bad and I focus on that. Plus – date nights mean free dinner!
xoxo
kristin
wow. must be something in the water.
18 years, 2 kids, a house, a boat and 4 timeshares here and we are done too.
Still a little bit messy, but on the road to recovery.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
I just read your blog post, Kristin. Good luck to you! I’m here if you want to swap war stories.
Adesh
Twitter: adesh....
Juz read ur blog I LOVE U….