Stuck
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Moving to Texas wasn’t my choice.
I mean. I had a choice but I agreed because it was where my ex-husband wanted to be. Things weren’t good between us as far back as three years ago and I thought moving to where he wanted to be would make him happier and help our marriage. It didn’t matter to me where we lived as long as things got better.
I’ve since learned that there was not a direct correlation between his geographic location and our happiness. And now I feel like I’m stuck. When I’m really angry, I feel like I was tricked into moving and now I’m stuck.
I love my job. I’ve made some good friends. Austin is lovely. My good hair days outnumber my bad.
But I still feel stuck.
(PS to my sister. This is not a cry for help.)
Meagan
Twitter: SarafinaKitchen
You know I’m always here for ya. I don’t want you to feel stuck. I want you to feel that, regardless of the reasons, it was a good move for you. xoxo
Meagan´s last awesome blog post…Don’t You Agree?
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Thanks, Meg.
PS Bingo this Sunday if you want to join!
ash
phew! godspeed to your next destination.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
I pour my heart out on my blog, and you mock me. For shame.
Ken
Twitter: flushy78
What you’re feeling is natural after what happened. You have to make it into your own life – I still feel like I’m building up mine.
If you enjoy your job, see it going places there, and like Austin, why not try a fresh start by moving to a new part of town? It helps you get rid of a lot of the skeletons that stay after past relationships depart.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
My lease is up this spring and I may do just that.
Keely
Twitter: keelydeux
I did this, too. I moved to Michigan. Ann Arbor, so it wasn’t awful, but it was still awful. I didn’t really have any ties that weren’t also connected to my ex, so I picked up and moved across the country (okay, so it was to shack up with some other guy, but I did marry him about 9 months later and now I’ve had three of his babies and we own a home in Colorado and a whole bunch of wienerdogs, so I hope that erases the “moves to shack up with guy” part or at least mitigates it somewhat).
In any case, I had spent so so long trying to fix things or hold things down or in or back. I had turned into a crusty shell of me, and I didn’t like it. I made a promise to myself that I would follow happiness – I would chase it down and take it in wherever I found it. If your bliss is in Austin, be there. If your bliss is somewhere else, go forth! Find it! I started finding good things when I stopped doing what I “should” do and instead doing what fulfilled me. Even though it was CRAY-ZEE.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
It makes me happy to hear your story. I’ve never been one to become really attached to where I’m living, so you never know where the wind may take me!