Needy Facebook Friends
I love spying on connecting with people across all forms of social media. I exchange comments and messages with people I never thought I’d be friendly with as an adult and gotten the inside scoop on people I haven’t seen or talked to in years – but sweet baby Jesus do the crazies crawl out of the woodwork!
The latest is someone I was casual acquaintances with in high school. We had one class together in four years, this person was always an attention whore, and now they want to know “what I think of them as a person” since they’ve “sent over 20 messages and never gotten a response.”
For the record, I’ve received two message from this person and I’ve made very pleasant conversation both times. Despite the smiley faces and AIM abbreviations.
It’s all a little childish, kind of creepy, and actually pretty sad.
I’ve been online since 1996 and have been a blogger since 2002, so I’ve received my fair share of nasty comments and strange encounters online and I no longer get my feelings hurt (Okay – I rarely get my feelings hurt online. I wasn’t entirely thrilled when the Constantine groupies said I need a stylist.), which is why I rolled my eyes when this person called me out for not chatting on Facebook. I wouldn’t keep sending someone messages if they were unresponsive, so I wonder why this person is persisting and why they would lay something as big as “what do you think of me as a person” on me when we’ve had minimal contact in the past 10 years? I mean, whatever happened to A/S/L?
The truth is that I don’t think much of this person as a person because we were never good friends and they haven’t crossed my mind in the past 10 years. That doesn’t mean I think poorly of them or am intentionally ignoring them – there’s just not a relationship there that requires the formation of an opinion on something as heavy as their entire being.
In the end, I blocked them on Facebook. Because that’s not childish at all.
Michael
Twitter: PecanCtMichael
Woah, that’s cold.
That person probably had a crush on your in high school and may think that he has a shot at coming to some romantic closure now that the social cliques of twenty years ago are a distant memory. DUH-NIED! You did the right thing though.
I’m glad that I’ve suppressed all of my high school memories. People from my home town friend me on Facebook and I honestly have no idea who they are. I’m sure that I knew them at one time, and some of their names sounds familiar, but nope, sorry, couldn’t pick you out in a lineup.
Michael
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Michael – Totally denied! And if this person is ignoring the thousand pictures of me and my husband on Facebook then they are an even bigger fool than I thought – but I’m certain there are no romantic undertones.
I’ve suppressed my hs memories to a certain extent, too. Not that it was a bad experience or anything, we just all went different directions. Though I did pretend not to recognize a classmate when she was our server at Applebees once. That was mean.
danel
dying to know who the attention whore is.
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Danel – This is where my blog gets me in trouble. Hope I don’t get sued for slander.
If you knew who it was you’d probably say “Ohhhhh yeah, I can see that.”
danel
LMAO
thats too funny.
im thinkin you’re clear on the slander thing tho… ‘specially since you didnt name a name
Jackie
fyi, its not slander if its true. Not that I would know….
danel
good call there jackie. lol
Corrin
Twitter: CorrinRenee
Jackie – That’s awesome news. I have some hella stories I could tell with photos. Haha.
Barbara
I probably would have done the same thing. I rarely answer any of the pass it on kind of e-mails either!
.-= Barbara´s last blog ..Relax With Barbara On Wednesday 47 =-.
Karen
Some people are just too needy. Best to ignore them.
Christina
Way too funny…. I wish I would hook up with some of the old “friends” so I could tell them how good of a “friend” they really were!
.-= Christina´s last blog ..BANG! =-.
vein
Facebook does bring people out of the woodwork… and out from under rocks : /
.-= vein´s last blog ..Random Sketch Day =-.
Sadie
Ugh, I got one of these recently. She was a friend I had a few years ago that was needy back then, even. She ended up dating and later marrying a friend of this guy I used to date. Some really bad stuff happened between me and this guy, so I stopped talking to her cause her husband is friend’s with the guy! Now she’s sent me all kinds of messages (3 years later) asking me why I’m mad at her, and what did she do wrong, etc. I finally just removed her from my friends list.
.-= Sadie´s last blog ..I Love Jeans =-.
ALS of Nevada
I do not use facebook but I get enough connection with other social medias…
.-= ALS of Nevada´s last blog ..ALS and Dogs? =-.
Linda
needy friends or acquaintances are high maintenence and too much for me!
.-= Linda´s last blog ..Finisterre’s Strong Green Line =-.
spygrrl
sounds to me like this person is in need of professional therapy.
Joan
Hi Corrin! The furtherest I’ve gotten with blogs is commenting but haven’t done Facebook or Twitter. May do Twitter becausd the Weather Channel uses it and I’m a weather fan.
Monica
I got an email 3 days ago and do not remember this person from HS, apparently I made quite the impression on her. I feel sad for the people on FB everything is still LOL (PLEASE) we graduated in 1981 can we please grow up or come up with something besides LOL, don’t get me wrong and don’t get offended if you use LOL it just lets not abuse LOL. I have people asking me if I want to join some Mafia war game. HELLO see what I mean. Maybe this is why their status is still single. HAAH!
.-= Monica´s last blog ..Needy Facebook Friends =-.
Michael
Twitter: PecanCtMichael
I just saw this and was reminded of you (or should I say, it reminded me of this particular post).
http://chalkboardmanifesto.com/index.php?comicNum=487
Too funny.
.-= Michael´s last blog ..New Birthday Photos For The Summer =-.
Barbara
Just stopping into say “Hi.”
.-= Barbara´s last blog ..I have 2 Winners! =-.
maureen
I think it’s weird as well about Facebook. I only use it for my business…a way for our group to communicate and maybe some people in that area looking….but not personal. I was contacted by someone from high school (’82)..for me it’s just odd because I don’t know how to talk to someone after 27 years….we never kept in touch. It’s not like “what have you been up to lately” really gets you anywhere…
.-= maureen´s last blog ..Does Social Media Marketing Really Work? =-.
Diane Scott
I’m another “not a facebook fan.” It’s not that I don’t think it’s a viable social media, it’s just too much work and doesn’t make near enough sense half the time. Weird comments, and tons of people trying to push stuff at me (yes I have one, but haven’t logged into it in probably a year LOL!). Oh, and doesn’t sound like slander to me, either
.-= Diane Scott´s last blog ..Canadian Residents Daily Chances At 10 Grand =-.
ConnieFoggles
Yeah, it can get kind of weird on Facebook. I can’t stand those poll things and other odd requests. I’ll go ahead and chose the things I want to do on my own. I guess I’m just mean.
.-= ConnieFoggles´s last blog ..McCormick and Schmick’s Restaurant Giveaway =-.