First Anniversary

Today is the first anniversary of my divorce. I don’t really know what to say about it, but I feel like I need to acknowledge it.

It’s a situation a lot of people don’t seem to understand. Mike and I get along better now than we ever did married. We go out to dinner, we walk the dog, we even went to South Padre for the weekend earlier this summer. I mean, who else are you going to be more comfortable going away with for the weekend┬á than someone you lived with for eight years?

My mom even refers to him as “your friend, Mike.”

Our friendship doesn’t change the fact that he was a shit husband (and he’d probably say I was a shit wife – though I prefer to think of myself as spirited), but he is a much better friend. I guess when you move across the country with someone to a place where neither of you knows anyone, you kind of stick together. It’s a shame that amicable divorces are that rare that we’re judged more harshly for being on good terms with our former spouses than we are for dragging each other through the mud.

Am I happy I’m divorced? Not exactly. Was it a positive change in my life? Absolutely. I’m in a much better place now that I’m not holding myself responsible for things I can’t control.

7 Replies to “First Anniversary”

  1. Happy Divorciversary! My extended family had this as pretty normal. Exs would even come to holiday parties and reunions. And a lot of our HS friends parents were like this. I think its nice.

  2. That’s really nice ­čÖé I thought I would say friends with my ex, but it wasn’t to be. Everything was amicable, we just went on to live lives very far apart from each other both on the map and more figuratively. Sometimes it feels like it never really happened – like I watched a movie about having been married before instead of having actually been married to someone. It’s weird not to know him anymore, but I guess it is what it is.
    Keely┬┤s last awesome blog post…Things that scare me.

  3. brava on one year! I understand the bittersweet/vague need to mark it in some way. after my divorce I started my first blog Chicken Fried therapy (now defunct, but it was a house on fire of fun) which led to my current blog which led to a publisher which led to a book deal. The years after divorce can be a rollercoaster but also ripe and prolific in a totally unique way.

    found your blog from your comment over on hipstercrite. look forward to reading more…

    Christine from FLY FISH CHICK┬┤s last awesome blog post…I Think Ikat, I Think Ikat

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge